| The American culture is by comparison to | | | | program-the program being your feelings. |
| international standards a "no-touch" society. | | | | When you touch another person, your feelings |
| This means we use touch very selectively, | | | | and emotions will be transferred to that |
| such as shaking hands when being introduced, | | | | other person instantly. |
| or an occasional pat on the back. Such | | | | |
| selective use of touch creates an opportunity | | | | The Fleeting Touch |
| to use this non-verbal means of communication | | | | |
| as a powerful medium to increase your appeal | | | | The fleeting touch is the accidental or |
| with someone, whether it be a person of the | | | | "chance" touch that is so short, people often |
| same or opposite sex. | | | | wonder if it happened in the first place. |
| | | | This can be while exchanging money, bumping |
| Because We Don't Really Know... | | | | into someone, handing someone a drink, etc. |
| | | | Even though the fleeting touch is short in |
| We go through our daily interactions with | | | | duration, a lot of energy is transferred from |
| strangers without really knowing how they | | | | you to the other person in that short time |
| feel about us. We can't. Afterall, we are | | | | and it can produce some powerful positive |
| not mind readers. It is for this reason that | | | | feelings. It has the power to create strong |
| we tend to keep strangers at a distance until | | | | subconscious feelings of warmth and |
| we get to know them. Would it not be great | | | | attraction if done genuinely. In the course |
| if we could influence that behavior by | | | | of persuasion, fleeting touches can almost |
| letting them know how we are feeling without | | | | always produce a positive effect if done |
| saying a word? Each of us has this unique | | | | correctly. Know that the acceptable areas of |
| gift and it comes in the form of TOUCH. | | | | touch are different depending on the gender |
| | | | of the person. Men can touch women only on |
| Why Touch is such a Powerful Communicator of | | | | their hands and forearms, but women can touch |
| Emotion | | | | men virtually anywhere. Men can touch other |
| | | | men on their hands, shoulders, forearm, or |
| You might be surprised to know that verbal | | | | upper arm. Women can touch other women on |
| communication plays a very small role when | | | | their hands, forearms, upper arms, and knees. |
| communicating emotion. Verbal words are | | | | |
| great for technical things, such as giving | | | | Be Careful of the Thin Line |
| directions or instructions, but when trying | | | | |
| to communicate how a person feels, the top | | | | In the workplace, you must always be careful |
| two methods of communicating this is through | | | | of using touch because of the inherent risk |
| the eyes and with touch. Think of your | | | | of sexual harassment. Emotions in the |
| emotions as electricity and your body as the | | | | workplace, although impossible to avoid, has |
| power line. When you touch another person, | | | | always been brushed under the carpet. Since |
| that electricity flows from you to them. | | | | touch conveys so much emotion and feelings, |
| It's like plugging your computer into the | | | | it can be mislabeled as sexual harassment and |
| internet and downloading a software | | | | that's not something you want. |