| Moment #3 - Introduction - "A day without an | | | | the time to meet new people whenever you get |
| Introduction is a day that is weak in the human | | | | the chance. |
| experience." | | | | If you are living a lifestyle where you are |
| Every time you meet someone new, however | | | | consciously choosing not to meet people for |
| brief the encounter might be, you have just | | | | whatever reason and you've gone several days |
| experienced introduction. | | | | without meeting somebody, I encourage you to |
| When we experience an introduction, our focus | | | | make an effort to meet someone today. Meeting |
| shifts to that person and our encounter with | | | | someone doesn't have to be complicated either. |
| them. We listen to what they have to say, and | | | | Nor do you have to spend any money. It can be |
| we watch how they act. Likewise, they are | | | | as simple as going to the park and finding |
| watching us. We are also wondering how they | | | | someone who's walking their poodle. Admire their |
| perceive us, even if it's on the subconscious level. | | | | dog. Tell him or her how cute it is (even if it's |
| The beauty of an introduction is that it returns | | | | ugly), and you'll have a new friend. Donate your |
| our thinking to the moment at hand. | | | | time to a church group. Donate your time to the |
| Depending on the circumstances of the | | | | local Little League (or any sporting association) and |
| introduction, we could be thinking a variety of | | | | become an assistant coach. |
| things: Who is this person? What do they want? | | | | Another situation where introductions can be |
| How do I look? I like this person. I dislike this | | | | scarce is when you are married or otherwise |
| person. I'd like to see this person again. This | | | | involved in a serious relationship. This can happen |
| person talks too much. This person is interesting. | | | | because you've become complacent within your |
| This person is boring. How do I end this | | | | relationship, and you are content with not meeting |
| conversation? | | | | anyone new. It could be that your partner is |
| It's critical to remember that we can only | | | | jealous or insecure and fears the idea of your |
| experience introduction one time with each person | | | | meeting people. Although it's normal for people |
| we meet. Once that initial meeting is over, it's | | | | involved in committed relationships to meet fewer |
| gone forever; and our future interactions with | | | | people, I believe this is a detriment to the human |
| that individual will fall into one of the other | | | | spirit and will eventually lead to resentment within |
| moments described later in this book. | | | | the relationship. |
| They say first impressions are important. I | | | | If your partner is the primary reason for lack of |
| completely agree. Your first encounter with | | | | introductions (jealous, insecure, or anything along |
| someone (your introduction to this person) is such | | | | those lines), maybe you can try meeting new |
| a powerful moment in the human experience that | | | | people together in a non-threatening environment. |
| your actions and words will be forever etched | | | | Perhaps you can meet someone who is of the |
| into the other person's memory. First impressions | | | | same sex. A jealous partner is a tough situation, |
| are so strong that practically everyone is on his | | | | the solution to which is beyond the scope of this |
| or her best behavior when meeting someone | | | | book. In the interest of fulfilling your human needs |
| new. They are right to do so. If a person gives a | | | | and enjoying the most of everyday life, I suggest |
| poor first impression during an introduction, this | | | | you find a way to meet new people. This might |
| person will spend a lifetime trying to correct it. | | | | mean you need to re-negotiate the scope of |
| Introductions can happen by design (walk up and | | | | your relationship, or maybe you need a new |
| introduce yourself to a stranger), by accident | | | | partner altogether. It's quite possible to have a |
| (bumping into someone when you exit an | | | | monogamous relationship and still meet new |
| elevator), or through any random chain of events. | | | | people everyday. |
| All of the following are samples of introduction: | | | | Geographical limitations - You live in a hut on the |
| Meeting an associate for the first time | | | | frozen tundra of a remote section of Alaska. |
| Dialing a wrong number and talking with someone | | | | Your best friend is a prairie dog nicknamed |
| new | | | | Spunkie, and the only interaction you have with |
| Handing your driver's license to a police officer | | | | human beings is the jet liner that flies low on the |
| you've never met | | | | horizon every evening. And you need binoculars to |
| For most people, introductions are plentiful in the | | | | see the plane. |
| work environment. This is where working in a | | | | If this describes you, then you need to move. If |
| coffee shop would have an advantage over | | | | you're alive and breathing and taking up space in |
| working just about anywhere else. However, if | | | | this world, then for one reason or another the |
| you work at home or work independently, or for | | | | universe wants you here. Start interacting with |
| those who are financially free and don't have to | | | | the rest of us. |
| work for a living, introductions can become absent | | | | The bottom line: Find a way to incorporate |
| to almost non-existent in their lives. No matter | | | | introductions into your life. Make them a priority. |
| what your work situation, it's imperative you find | | | | They are important. |