Private Detective Gives Ten Tips on How to Catch a Cheating Spouse

Is He or She Cheating? 10 Things You Must Dolover, never ever call their phone number. What
Before You Make That Call To A Privatecan you accomplish by calling? All you'll do is alert
Detective.them you know something. Don't think by calling
A large part of a Private Detective's job isand hanging up, you'll fool anyone. When can you
catching cheating spouses and documenting thathonestly recall getting a call and the caller simply
evidence on video. But there's a number of thingshanging up on the other end? The cheater and his
women, specifically, should do and should not dolover will be extra-suspicious of any hangup calls
before they make the call to a private detectiveand may put the affair on hold.
or private investigator.You might think you could scare his lover into not
1. Don't Confront Your Cheaterseeing your cheater anymore. Any threats you
You should never confront your cheater, unlessmake over the phone could land you in the
you want to waste money on an investigation.hoosegow and blacken your image in the eyes of
Once the cheater has been alerted that youothers.
know they're fooling around, they'll cool their heels7. Check The Computer
for a while. Any attempts by a competentCheck their Internet history and recently surfed
private detective to catch them in the act will bewebsites. If you find that the history is regularly
fruitless, since they won't actually be doingdeleted, there must be some reason for this.
anything.Don't confront the cheater about it. A competent
Do You Think You'll Actually Get The Truth?licensed forensic investigator can locate all the
Remember, a cheater is a liar, and an expert liarInternet history from the computer.
to be sure. If you confront them with only8. Carry A Voice Recorder
circumstantial evidence (lipstick on collar, textYou and your cheater aren't getting along so well.
message on phone, smelling of perfume) they'llThat's a given. Why else would they cheat? So,
think of a way to lie their way out of it. After all,it's fair to say that you probably have your fair
who knows how long they've already been lyingshare of arguments that sometimes turn nasty.
to you? They're experts at it.If you carry a hidden voice recorder, it will
Don't think because you're their wife they'llaccomplish three things:
suddenly spill the beans to you. They've coveredOne: It will capture anything they are saying to
it for so long it's almost become a game to themyou and if they get nasty you'll have it all
now. They want to see how far they can go withrecorded for future evidence.
it. And, if you truly had that much power overTwo: Since you'll be there, you're less likely to say
them, do you think they'd have cheated in theanything nasty because you know you're being
first place?recorded.
2. Video EvidenceThree: If it gets violent, you'll have the recording
The only true evidence that will get you the truthto play for the police who'll gladly shackle your
is video of him with his lover. He can't talk hischeater.
way out of that. A licensed private investigator is9. Research The Private Detectives In Your Area
trained to get that evidence for you legally.All investigative firms are not created equal. Some
3. Gather Your Own Evidenceare one-man shows, others aren't even licensed.
Be quiet about what you already know and startYou can check an investigator's license with your
to think about ways you can gather evidenceState's licensing board.
yourself. Whatever you found that alerted you toThe next thing you want to do is check their
something going on - photograph it, copy it orreputation. One easy way to do that is to view or
someway make sure you have your own copyrequest their client list and/or testimonials.
of the evidence. The take this evidence and storeDon't let an investigator say to you, "We keep
it either in a safety deposit box or in some otherthat information secret". That's rubbish. They can
truly safe location. If your cheater finds it, you'llkeep the casework they did a secret, and should
never see it again.be expected to, but if they actually had any
4. Keep A Journalclients, they'd let you see them and talk to them.
Nothing fancy, just a simple date and time record10. Make Sure They Are Insured
of what you saw and where you saw it. If yourPrivate detectives can get into sticky situations
cheater doesn't come home until 1 AM --and one working under contract for you might
document it in your journal. Writing it in a journalget into hot water. You want to make sure you
means you won't have to struggle to rememberare protected by asking the investigator to show
details that could be very helpful to a privateyou a copy of his insurance policy. Don't fall for a
detective when the investigation starts. Keepbond. A bond provides absolutely no protection
your journal in an super-safe location.for you were you to get sued.
5. Watch For The Cell Phone BillBonus Tip: Retainer Fees
Make copies of the phone bill when it comes in.Make sure the investigator you hire offers a
Then, using different colored highlighters, highlightREFUNDABLE retainer fee. That is, if you pay the
the numbers you don't know that you see moreinvestigator a $500 retainer, but then decide to
than once. Highlight each number with a differentcancel the case, you get your $500 back less any
colored highlighter. After you've gone through aadministrative fees, which should be disclosed
few pages of highlighting, you'll see one or twoupfront. Most investigation agency retainers are
numbers scream at your from the page. This isnon-refundable, meaning, you pay the investigator
more than likely your cheater's lover.$500, that's their $500 no matter what happens.
6. DON'T Call ANY Phone NumbersDon't get fooled by this tactic. Only hire a
Even if you know for sure it's your cheater'sreputable investigation agency.