Are Your Goals in Sync?

Last night walking home from Jiu-Jitsu I wasEvery moment you spend doing an activity is
chatting with a guy I met from class. He told meeither an investment in something or it is an
he was studying to get a masters degree inexpenditure with no equity-gone for ever.
physical education because he wanted to teachHow many moments can you afford to spend
PE. I asked him if he could make money doingwith no equity? For some people entire life times
that and his answer was astounding to me. Heslip away without equity. They can look back over
said he didn't know. He was 27 years old in collegethe long years and not point to a major
to get a second degree, and working part time asaccomplishment. All of there dreams and goals
a shipping and receiving clerk.slipped away. They never took the time to
If your goal is to teach and it is yourarrange their time with equity.
passion-great. Teaching is a noble calling. The worldWhat happens if you set a long term goal lets
desperately needs talented teachers. My concernsay that will take 5 years to accomplish it and on
was his lack of understanding of the details of hisyear 3 you realize it is the wrong goal or the price
goal. Without knowing how much he would earnis higher than you are willing to pay? What should
how could he know if his main goal synced withyou do? If you quit are you a quitter?
his others goals? He was still single without anyThe answer to the last question is yes, you are a
children. If one of his goals was to eventuallyquitter. But I tell you it is better to quit a goal that
marry and raise a family could he support hisdoesn't serve your life well than to continue with
family? What if he spent three years working andthe pursuit of something you made with your
studying to become a PE teacher only to find heyouthful mind. You are not the same today as
couldn't make a living for his family?you were yesterday and you certainly will not be
There is a misconception being touted all aroundthe same ten years from now.
that you only have to do what you love and youOne of the most difficult decisions of my life was
will make enough money to live your dream life.to resign my commission as an officer in the
The reality is you have to be in a position toArmy. I spent more than 6 years working on my
receive money by the things you love. If just forjust becoming an officer thinking I wanted to
argument's sake the maximum a PE teacherserve as a career officer. At the ten and half
earns with experience is capped at 40k and youyear mark I left the Army. Just about everyone
need 80k a year then you have a serious shortfalltried to talk me out of it. You are crazy they
that your passion will not bring to you. Thesaid, you are giving up a guaranteed retirement. A
bureaucracy of the school system in and of itselfcontinuous stream of income you will begin
will prevent much change.receiving at only 43.
The flaw in the thinking is not the passion or evenFor me the price was too high. Nine and a half
the goal. The flaw is in the planning. Your goalmore years in the Army would have been a
planning must synch all of your goals. They needsentence condemning myself to misery and
to support and build on one another. Short termsubjecting my marriage to long years of
planning is important, but you must also think andseparation. My goal was completely out of sync
plan for the long term.with my new life and I cast it aside and set a
What a tragedy to work for four years only tonew goal. I had to reinvent myself in nearly every
find out your goal doesn't get you where youway. Can you imagine trying to translate the skills
really want to go. The time would not be wasted.of a trained killer into business life? There is not
The very act of working toward the goal wastoo much of a need in the market place for an
important. You grew along the way. You changedAirborne Ranger. Luckily for me the specific skills
in a hundred maybe a thousand small ways.were not nearly as important as the what I had
The danger is time. You do not have all the timebecome. The character of discipline, focus, and
in the world. You are only allowed 24 hours in thededication that I developed. My 10 years were
day. If you spend even a small part of your 24not wasted. They were invested pursuing a
hours chasing a goal you shouldn't have chasedworthwhile endeavor that helped shape and form
you will never get that time back. Pursuing out ofwho I am today.
synch goals delays the goals you really need toMake sure the goals you set today are still in
accomplish.sync with your reality today.